I found this site searching for stories from people like me. I am not saying there is no one with the same issues as me but I am just not finding the kind of blogs I was looking for so I am going to start one. Keep in mind I am the worst speller ever and have given up the fight and now just pre worn people.
This is how a typical day goes for me. Here are just a few examples of things that happen to me on the regular. In future blogs it will be things that I have done goofy that day. Goofy by the way is one of the names my friends have given me. Alarm goes off at 6:30 but I never get up untill the very last second, I can sleep for 2 mins. Its time to get my son Blake on the bus, he is in third grade so by now morning should be routine, but I have ADHD so not even close. I can never seem to get it together, cant find socks or undewear. Once he is dressed then it is shoes or bookbag ect. All this of course is dependent on my waking up on time, about half the time I have to take him to school because I am once again late. Getting myself ready for the day is a whole other procces ( a word I use to discribe how I do things ~Its always a process ) I first shower which takes me a while of pittiling before I actually get in once I have decited to then once I get out I have to find a distraction then back to it. After every step of getting ready I find myself wondering off so it takes me way tooo long to look this crapy!.
As I dont work because like most of us ADHDer's I cant hold a job, My only responsabilates are my son, husband, and housework. If I was to be graded on the preceeding it would be a C - on a good day. After Blake is off instead of jumping right into it and " Get er done " I choose to go back to sleep ( I am always sooo tired ). 1:30 pm Shane leaves for work , I should have been up hours ago to ensure he had dinner to take with him but no such luck, for the most part I am either slapping something together or he wakes me up when he leaves and I have to take it to him later. Now usualy at this point one of two things its either time to finish that nap or coffee with my mom who lives close. To recap items compleated so far 0.
3:50 pm time for Blake to get in from school. Here is were it realy starts to spin out of control as Blake also has ADHD, we run circles that go nowhere around each other. I find it very hard to guide him in the things that he needs to get done and teaching him how to handle his ADHD when I cant control my own. Its hard even tho I know that it is in his best interest to make him do homework and chores when I cant do those myself. The evening is about productive as the morning. Item checked off to do list 0. A good evening is when we get homework done, even if it is way too late and dinner fixed before 9 pm.
My completed taskes to this point would have taken a person without ADHD no time at all, me it has taken all day. You also have to keep in mind as I am running behind geting nothing done I am franticly rushing around so very busy. A friend of mines daughter once said to her mother " Mom Lisa is always running around but never gets anything done ". As with most of us I can never find anything. It is a big vicious cycle of losing something finding it then losing something else only to realize I have lost the first item again, start over and repeat day after day after day. Here is where my ADHD starts to get to me. No lie or stretch I spend hours a day on the hunt. I am getting over it. I used to laugh about it a brush it off but now it wears me all the way out. Here is the senario~ Brake time I will sit and smoke a cig ( by the way most the time this is just an excuse to not do what needs done ) Oh but wait were are my cigeretts? 10 min later I find them real close to were I begain looking but over looked them and searched the house for them. OK but now were did I lose that lighter ( I never have a lighter its always lost ) forget it I just use the stove. K set down a get setteled~ I should check my cell phone while I am on a break, yep you guessed it~ Can't find my cell....yada yada looking.... looking yada yada, at some point find it in some odd spot. Humm... what ash tray did I put that cigerett in that I lit before I started the quest for my phone. This happens several times per day. It is alway my cigs, lighter, and phone but other things I miss place on the regular are my shoes, coat, purse, objects in my purse, keys, remote control, tools I was using, just about everything thats been in my hands. When I go to other peoples homes it follows me there too except I lose them at there place or worse sometimes I lose there stuff.
Housework is near impossable. I spend as much or more time per day as most on housework the problem is a task never gets totally complete in one try, therefore its all half done Laundry gets washed but not dryed and it sets till I have to wash it again or it gets dryed but not put up. Dishes same way only half done before I run out of attention. Floors half swept or vacumed so on and so on. Appointments another source of havoic. The appointment card they give you at the doctors office is for me just a purse filler and a waste, most of the time. I find them months after said date. I have to call a few times before I finaly get it in my head or write it down on something other than the scrap paper I know I am going to lose anyhow. If I had a penny for everytime I have showed up at an appointment a week eairly I could start a savings account that is of course assuming I could save money.
You get the point by now My ADHD is a total train wreak. Adding to the mess is the fact that as I said I am unemployed and have no insurance so now that I know what this is and am ready to do something about it I dont have the money too, so I just have to deal with it. More to come and please send comments, your story , or any information you may have on resources that can help me get this under control. I am ready to be a productive person and not be know as the forgetfull ,careless, goofy kid. This is just a sample of my ADHDisms and there is lots more and I do the sillyest things I am confedent I will have lots of material to fill a blog with.
Thanks for reading.